- We can be spiritual and down to earth and have fun—though not always at the same time. So we will have fun, when appropriate, while going deeper.* There are significant, important, even serious matters. That does not mean we have to take ourselves seriously or be self-important.
- We are about actions, not only words.* What you or anyone else knows is interesting, possibly even useful, but makes no difference unless we are inspired—and moved to act.
- We will move the conversation from what is wrong to what is missing that would make a difference.
- We will have little problem answering important questions with a question; we will notice and not even try to answer questions that are framed badly.*
- We will agree with others when we can.*
- The stories we tell define us and our culture; we must choose our stories wisely.
- We will notice what makes you or us uncomfortable, and consider gently moving towards it.
- We acknowledge that being human is not reserved for a dominant culture.
- We will consider that music is prayer with wings, and comedy could be prayer on roller skates.
- Nobody should get hurt. Compassion is not weakness, but authentic power.
*Thanks and a nod to Brian McLaren, founding pastor of Cedar Ridge Community Church, Spencerville MD, for this principle.